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ONLINE TRAINING – COURSE #2

EXILES & CRITICS

For coaches and other non-therapists using Parts Work!

This Course builds on the Foundations Course

Participation is only available to students who have participated in the Foundations Course #1.
Learn more the Foundations Course

The Course is designed for Coaches and is not a replacement for a complete training in Internal Family Systems THERAPY. 

WHAT THIS TRAINING IS ABOUT

I took Lucas’s class as a therapist who was working on deepening my understanding of ifs and found Lucas to be a wonderful teacher. He created a safe community environment among participants where I learned a great deal. Truly, it felt like more than just a class, but a supportive community I was part of. Thank you Lucas! I am looking forward to doing more with you in the future.
Heather MaplesTherapist, US
I think your course is fantastic - it is didactically incredibly well structured and you have a gift for making things exciting and logical and very precise and accurate, so that I have learned a lot.
ThomasTherapist, Germany
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Why should Coaches learn
to work with Exiles?

Short answer: Because they come up.

When helping Clients work with protectors, polarizations etc… we are working on the balance of the system which inevitably affects and touches reasons for the protectors and polarizations: The Exiles!

Exiles often carry painful emotions, beliefs or dysregulation from the past. Those events wer could not digest are held by Parts in our inner system. LEARN MORE HERE.

 
Exile Drawing 1
Working with Protectors during a Coaching Session

And one element of Exiles is that they are often longing to be seen and acknowledged. Having been split off from the rest of the system, they have been starved for attention and love from the self.  

Because of this Exiles will regularly come up – which can mean that they flood or trigger the system:

This can mean

  • Intense Emotions
  • regression
  • Strong Protectors (especially Critics)
Exile Drawing 2
Exiles can get triggered and flood the system

 

When this happens the worst thing we as Coaches can do is withdraw, panic or make the parts and clients feel like something is wrong. 
This is simply reinforcing the same experience Exiles have already had many times. 

So even as Coaches we should know how to handle these moments with confidence.

That is part of our responsibility. 

 

Exile Drawing 3
We can confidently and skilfully work with that

And thus help them have a new and helpful experience.

  • Feeling welcome.
  • Feeling safe.
  • Helping them get what they need
  • And not get stuck in the emotion or inner critic attack.
Exile Drawing 4
And help Clients and Exiles have a new experience

This course teaches you how to
confidently be with Exiles
should they show up in your Sessions.

Based on IFS, the Internal Family Systems Therapy. 

It teaches you the necessary understanding, tools and questions you can use in your regular sessions to help clients when deeper Parts are showing up.

All IN ONE EXILE

The focus is not on teaching Therapy, there are other courses for that, but rather the perspectives that us non-therapists need to confidently work with clients on deeper issues.

It uses the same Same teaching principles
as the Foundations Course

It focuses on how to
  • recognise exiles showing up
  • help clients not become overwhelmed by the Exile’s feelings and memories
  • witness and learn what the Exile has to say
  • And through all that help the part to have a new experience here & now – without having to learn everything about the past (as this may not be part of your coaching agreement)

For this it is very important to 

  • Understand Boundaries of your practice vs therapy
  • How to integrate this into other coaching in a grounded and normal way
  • How to recognise critics and their dynamics as to not get stuck in them
I am amazed by Lucas' ability to present complex topics in a structured yet playful manner. The principles of teaching were incredibly helpful. In addition all arising questions were answered quickly and thoroughly. Thank you, Lucas.
Katrin TuppingerCoach and Bodyworker
As someone who teaches at university myself, I know how hard it is to present information in a simple and digestible manner without becoming too simplistic. Thus, I am all the more amazed at how effortless Lucas manages to explain complex material in a way that is both intuitive and insightful. Over the last three months I've had the privilege of being able to ask Lucas all types of questions ranging from parts work to parenting. I’ve always come away with a deeper, wider, more systematic and more visual understanding of what I was looking for. Lucas has the unique ability to systemize, connect and visualize thoughts in a way that not only opens the door of understanding, but also and more importantly, carves out a way of practical action.
M.B.PhD from Germany
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Who am I?

My name is Lucas Forstmeyer. I am trained in IFS, different meditation practices and body-based therapy, and I lead workshops & sessions across Europe.

My background includes studying Psychology, training with a Sufi-Teacher and co-teaching the Holistic-Bodywork.org trainings that teaches bodyworkers how to work with Developmental Trauma (amongst many other things!)

I am truly excited about this training, because I see the positive impact this IFS-inspired form of Parts Work has on how coaches work – and thus their clients’ lives.

Speaking from personal experience, I can see how these tools have helped me to:

  • Deal with some of the deepest Parts and Patterns of my life — from rage to fear of intimacy.
  • Integrate my deep spiritual experiences into a more normal ‘day-to-day’ experience of Self
  • Be much more compassionate with myself and my clients – understanding the deep positive intent in Parts’ behavior. 

It has changed my practice and I have seen it change the practice of many people who have participated in my courses.

My biggest hope is that more humans can benefit from these wonderful tools and walk this earth with more presence, compassion and personal power.

 

PRACTICALITIES

Next Course:

18.08. – 10.11.2022

The 7 Live Calls take place on Thursdays,
19:00 – 21:30 CET (Berlin time).

What you get

  • 7 Live Calls
  • 6 Live Tutorials – for extra practice lead by Anita Wagner
  • Small group with a max of 26 participants
  • Partner practice between the sessions – to deepen your practice and skill — and to get experience and feedback
  • 2 videos explaining the most important concepts, tools and coaching-tips before each session
  • Recommended reading for each session
  • 1 Guided Meditation for each session
  • Material to establish an individual journaling practice using these simple tools
  • Explicit embodiment practices for each step covered in the course
  • A private chat group in which your questions will be answered and for support between sessions (I take this aspect of the training very seriously. Getting your questions answered and perspectives on your experiences, as well as that of your peers, can be one of the most important elements of being in this group). 

You will need to invest time and energy for this course. You cannot expect to learn these tools and reap the benefits without practicing, studying and contemplating what we are doing in this course.

So please, only get in touch with me if you know you can invest 2-5 hours each week for study and practice (not per day as some people seem to read…)

Cost of the course: 

500 Euros

(If money is an issue, please reach out to me!)

GET IN TOUCH

Write to me, if you are interested in the Course.
I will answer all questions and am happy to have a conversation
to see if this is a fit for you.

Registration re-opens in Summer 2022

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Glossary:

  • ‘Self’ refers to our Essential Being, our spiritual core beyond personality and subpersonalities.
  • ‘Parts’ refer to the different sub-personalities we all have, each with its own way of feeling, perceiving and acting in the world. 
  • ‘Patterns’ refers to a specific type of behavior that creates suffering in a person’s life. Each one of us has different patterns that are active in our life. 

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